Xiaoyang Guo

Xiaoyang Guo

May 8, 2024 Eulogy - by Liana Bates 

Thank you all for joining us today to pay our tribute and respect to my father Xiaoyang Guo. Your support is truly appreciated. Many families and friends have reached out the past few days. Though they are not present here today to attend this ceremony, we will represent them to share their stories to honor my dad and celebrate his life, his achievement and the legacy he leaves behind. As the only child of my father, it is a great honor to deliver the eulogy. It is never easy to say goodbye, especially at a moment like this. Today, as I stand here, the depth of my loss is immeasurable. But so is my gratitude. I am grateful for the times we spent together, for the love he gave us, and for the values he taught me. We are here because Dad meant so much to us. Words cannot express how much he will be missed and what a positive impact he had on each every one of us. I know each of you are very saddened by Dad’s passing. And today, as we grieve together, he would want us to remember him with joy and not with sorrow. He was named after the Sun. Everywhere he went, he brought us warmth, hope, love, and happiness. Let’s share the beautiful memories that we cherish, and the wonderful times that we all had with him. So that we know how he touched your life and how special he was. Dad was born on May 28, 1951, the 4th child in the family, with one older brother, two older sisters, and two younger brothers. Among his siblings, he stood out as the naughtiest troublemaker of them all. Inevitably he received extra attention from his mother. In retrospect, he viewed this time as lucky. The extra time resulted in his deeper understanding of her values through observing her examples. Years later, Dad attributed this experience as the main reason for developing his fundamental characteristics: kindness, generosity, empathy, and the importance of education. These became his foundation as a husband, father, friend and mentor. The Guo family has a lineage of outstanding educators for generations. Dad also chose to be an educator. He was a great teacher, a well-respected professor, nationally recognized as a recipient of the excellent teaching award in China. A quote from Martin Luther King is a great summary of his education principle: “the function of education is to teach one to think intensively and to think critically. Intelligence plus character- that is the goal of true education”. Most people know my father as Professor Guo. I know him as a caring husband, and a strict but loving father. To people outside of our family, we bragged that we had a very stable triangle relationship: Dad listened to me, I listened to Mom, and Mom listened to Dad. It was not easy to please the two most stubborn and demanding women in his life, especially when conflicts arose. But the truth is Dad was the glue. He was the provider, the protector, and our strongest supporter, who was always there for us. As a loving husband, he did his best to spoil my mom. As a father, he trained me to be independent, to solve problems with a positive attitude ‘everything can be a learning experience’, to be open-minded by traveling and reading; and most importantly to keep challenging myself and never easily give up. Every time when I faced a difficulty, Dad always gave me great advice and encouraged me to be brave and to try. “Our home is your safe harbor, no matter what happens. Go out explore this wonderful world. Sky is the limit.”. Dad is best known by his dedication to work. He is an accomplished scholar, and an innovative researcher, who successfully accomplished many seemingly impossible missions. His research interests focus on cementing engineering technology and materials of oil and gas wells, published over 200 research articles, trained over 100 graduate students. His work was recognized by peers internationally. In 2018 and 2019, he was an invited speaker at the World oil high pressure, high temperature Conference. I asked him what motivated him to keep pushing the limits of problem solving. He smiled and said: Don’t ever take no for an answer. If you are struggling, you just haven’t found the right approach. Try again. Besides work and family, Dad was a fun person who had many interests. He loved watching soccer matches, cooking, and traveling. He was obsessed with cars, ships, and aircrafts. He behaved like a little boy when spending hours touring around aerospace, aircraft museums, and asking to be photographed with all the airplanes on exhibit. I wanted to share a funny story to show the joyful side of Dad. He loved reading and researching on cars. So many times, he walked into dealerships to chat with salespeople about new car features. Every time, they ended up listening to him as he knew so much more than them... Dad lived a full life. As he told me in his last days, he had no regret. He just wished he could be with us for a little longer. My father’s advice and guidance will continue to carry me throughout the ups and downs that life has to offer. Dad, I will miss you, and I will always hold onto the precious memories we shared together. As we say goodbye, I promise to live by the values you taught me, and to make you proud. I love you. If I had the chance to live another life, I would choose to be your daughter again. Thank you all for being here today to remember my father, to celebrate his life, and to share the love and joy he brought to us. As I conclude this tribute, let’s remember my father for the exceptional man he was and take comfort in knowing that his spirit, his teachings, and his love will continue to live on in each one of us. 

2024.5.8 郭小阳追悼会悼词 - 女儿郭梁撰 谢谢大家今天来参加我的父亲郭小阳的追悼会，向他告别致敬。我谨代表我的家人对您的支持表示感谢。 在过去的几天里，我们收到众多亲友的问候和诚挚的哀思。远隔重洋他们无法到场参加遗体告别仪式，我们受他们之托，将代表他们向爸爸道别，回顾他的生平，一起缅怀他卓有成就的一生。 作为爸爸的独生女，我将代表家人致悼词。 说再见从来都不是容易的，尤其是像今天这样的时刻。此时此刻我站在这里，我的悲痛无以言表，但是我的内心也充满了感激之情。感恩有爸爸陪伴我们的日子，感恩爸爸给予我们的爱，也感谢爸爸教我做人的准则。 语言不能表达我们对他无尽的思念和感谢他对我们生命的影响。 我知道大家都对爸爸的去世感到难过。今天，我们在这里表达哀思。他不希望我们用悲伤来纪念他，请记住他带给你的快乐。 他的人生正如他的名字：小太阳。他走到哪里，就把温暖，希望，爱和幸福带到哪里。请分享你与他一起珍贵的记忆和美好的时光，让我们知道他如何影响了你的生活，他有多么的特别。 爸爸生于1951年5月28日，在家里排行老四。还有一位大哥，两位姐姐，和两个弟弟。在众多的兄弟姊妹中，他以最会淘气闯祸而脱颖而出。这样，他也顺理成章的得到了更多与奶奶独处的时间。多年以后，爸爸回忆起来，认为这是他的幸运。因为母亲的教诲和言传身教，他得以深刻的体会到做人的基本准则：善良，慷慨，富有同情心和教育的重要性。他也把这些美德发扬光大，作为他为夫，为父，为友和为师的准则。 郭氏近几代都有出色的教育家。我的爸爸也把教育作为自己的职业。他是一个好老师，广受尊敬的教授，曾获全国优秀教师的殊荣。借用马丁路德金的名言可以总结爸爸的教育理念：教育的功能是教会学生深刻和广泛的思考，智育和德育兼有才是真正的教育。 大多数人知道爸爸是郭教授。他在我眼中是好爸爸，珍爱妈妈的好丈夫。我和父母常对外人说，我们家有坚固的三角关系。我听妈妈的话，妈妈听爸爸的，爸爸听我的。取悦于生命中最重要但又固执和难伺候的两个女人不是容易的，尤其是当她们两个人产生矛盾的时候。我爸做的很好，他是家庭的黏合剂。他供养，保护我们，并始终如一的支持我们。作为好丈夫，他溺爱妈妈。作为父亲，他严格要求我要有独立自主的能力；解决问题的态度要积极，人总是要学习的；要有开阔的眼界：读万卷书行万里路。更重要的是，要经得起挑战，不要轻言放弃。每当我遇到困难时，爸爸总是引导我，鼓励我要勇敢的尝试。“不管在外面遇到什么，家是你永远的港湾。到外面精彩的世界闯一闯，天高任鸟飞”。 爸爸以敬业为名。他是知名学者，勇于创新的科研带头人，成功地完成了许多看似不可能的任务。他是固井专家，发表了200余篇学术论文，培养了100余名博士和硕士研究生。他的工作成就也得到了国外同行的肯定。2018和2019年，爸爸连续受世界石油HPHT会议之邀做学术报告。我曾问过他勇于挑战科技难题的动力是什么？他说，不要被困难吓倒。你只是还没有找到解决问题的办法。再试试。 除了工作和家庭，爸爸也是富有生活情趣之人。他爱看足球比赛，善于烹饪。他像一个小男孩一样痴迷于汽车，船舰和飞机。他在航空航天博物馆，汽车博物馆和航空母舰博物馆馆里流连忘返，总是要求与几乎每一件展品拍照留念。我还想分享一个有关爸爸的趣事。他爱阅读和研究汽车的新技术。很多次他去车行看车，与销售员交流，最后都变成听他讲，因为他比销售懂得更多。 爸爸有一个出色的人生。在他最后的生命岁月里，他告诉我说死而无憾，只是希望多一点与家人共享天伦之乐的时间。 爸爸的教导和精神将继续陪伴我以后的人生旅程，不管是风雨还是晴天。爸爸，我想念你，会永远珍惜我们一起的时光。今天我们在这里告别，我保证会继续坚守你教我的人生准则，让你为我骄傲和自豪。如果有来生，我还要做你的女儿。 谢谢大家前来参加爸爸的遗体告别，回顾他的人生，分享他给我们带来的欢乐和爱。最后，让我们铭记爸爸是多么的卓越和出类拔萃。他的理念和他的爱永远活在我们的心中。Liana Bates May 09, 2024

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