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When we picture a funeral, what most people imagine is a traditional funeral – people gathered by a casket at a cemetery. Since this is what we are familiar with, most families still choose to have a traditional funeral. Below, we list and explain the components of a traditional funeral service.
Components of a Traditional Funeral
1) A Wake or Visitation
A wake or visitation is the chance for people to share their condolences with the family and pay their respects to the deceased. The deceased is placed in a casket that can be either open or closed. Often people take a solo moment by the casket for reflection or prayer, then proceed to give their condolences with the family. It is recommended to say something simple to each family member, such as “sorry about your loss”, especially if there are several other guests waiting to share their condolences.
2) The Funeral Ceremony
This is the main component of a traditional funeral. The purpose of this component is to honor the life of the deceased, reflect on on how they impacted our lives, and say one last goodbye. The funeral service often takes place at the funeral home chapel, at a church, or at a cemetery. The funeral service will consist of hymns, religious passages, and the eulogy is given.
3) Committal Service
Once the funeral service has ended, the family and guests gather at the gravesite or crematory depending on whether cremation or burial has been chosen. In the most traditional sense, burial is chosen to go along with a traditional funeral ceremony. Once at the cemetery, the family and guests gather around the plot or mausoleum. At this point a final set of prayers referred to the Rite of Committal is recited.
4) Funeral Reception
Many families decide to have a social gathering after the committal service with food and refreshments. It is a chance for the family to thank guests for attending, and it allows everyone to share memories and provide support for each other.
When people think about traditional funeral services, they associate them with religion. Specifically, for Maryland, many traditional funeral services take on the style of a Christian funeral. To further illustrate the main component – the funeral ceremony, we will look at it from a Christian perspective. However, please remember that you can still have a traditional funeral this is not Christian.
The Christian Funeral Ceremony
A Christian funeral ceremony takes the form of any other Christian mass with a few nuances. The goals of the Christian funeral service are to provide support for the grieving family, pray for the soul of the deceased, and help the soul travel to heaven.
The funeral ceremony starts with guests entering the church or chapel and taking their seats. It is recommended that guests arrive about 15-20 minutes early. There is then a small procession down the main aisle of the church by the immediate family and the pallbearers who are carrying the casket. The casket will generally be placed in front of the altar, and the immediate family and pallbearers will sit at the very front. Once everyone has gathered together, the priest will give an opening statement that is either a prayer or a statement of support for the family, or a combination of both. After the opening statement, the mass officially begins. A traditional funeral ceremony will include a sermon from the priest, readings from the Bible, prayers, and hymns. A sermon or homily is a speech given by the priest after scripture has been read. The Priest will provide insight into the scripture readings and will relate it to the life of the deceased in some manner. Generally, the family will choose close relatives or friends to say the prayers and the scripture readings. The funeral ceremony often concludes with the delivery of the eulogy. The eulogy usually discusses the deceased’s life, his/her values, personality, and accomplishments, etc.
Since there are so many sects of Christianity there will be small differences when comparing for example a Roman Catholic funeral to a Presbyterian funeral.
We specifically have two more traditional funeral packages.
“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam and the mountains quake with their surging. There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God, the holy place where the Most High dwells. God is within her, she will not fall; God will help her at break of day. Nations are in uproar, kingdoms fall; he lifts his voice, the earth melts. The Lord Almighty is with us; the God of Jacob is our fortress. Come and see what the Lord has done, the desolations he has brought on the earth. He makes wars cease to the ends of the earth. He breaks the bow and shatters the spear; he burns the shields with fire. He says, “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.”
Lamentations 3:22-26, 31-33
“Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. I say to myself, “The Lord is my portion; therefore I will wait for him.” The Lord is good to those whose hope is in him, to the one who seeks him; it is good to wait quietly for the salvation of the Lord. For no one is cast off by the Lord forever. Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. For he does not willingly bring affliction or grief to anyone.”
“Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me. My Father’s house has many rooms; if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am.”
1 Thessalonians 4:14-17
"For since we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so, through Jesus, God will bring with him those who have fallen asleep. For this we declare to you by a word from the Lord, that we who are alive, who are left until the coming of the Lord, will not precede those who have fallen asleep.
For the Lord himself will descend from heaven with a cry of command, with the voice of an archangel, and with the sound of the trumpet of God. And the dead in Christ will rise first. Then we who are alive, who are left, will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air, and so we will always be with the Lord."
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